Us women like a man with a plan. Today I’m going to give you an example of an absolutely fantastic letter to send to your girlfriend after a break up. When we first found out about this from Matt Huston (The Writer of Ex (Squared) System - we reviewed it here) Some of the girls we're actually angry because they knew how well this would work. Regardless, we've decided to share it for all the guys out there who have the best intentions at heart.

This letter is great because they it lets your ex hear you out whilst avoiding the awkwardness of meeting her in person – and the risk of arguing. The goal of the letter is to… AGREE WITH THE BREAKUP. There are some other subtle things you can say to improve your chances.

The reason you want to do this is that it communicates self control and strength which women find VERY ATTRACTIVE in a guy.

Here’s the letter…

" Hi Sarah,

I just wanted to let you know I think this is a good idea,
I really enjoyed spending time with you but I agree that thing’s just haven’t been the same lately. I just found out I’m going on a trip interstate next week for work so I’m pumped! I don’t think we should talk for the next couple of weeks to make things easier on both of us.

Maybe we can still be friends when this is over,
Take care,
Matt"

Firstly, you're agreeing with the break up, than you're acknowledging that you really enjoyed the good times you spent with your girlfriend. this subtly reminds your ex girlfriend of all the good times you spent together, and differentiates you from all the men who say bad things about their ex’s after a break up or act needy and desperate.

Next, mention some good news, this let’s her know you’re doing fine and not sitting around moping and feeling sorry for yourself. I might get some women angry with me by saying this, but It's human nature for a part of you to always want your ex to be going through a tough time immediately after a break up. When you communicate that you're fine, this doesn't hurt a woman. Rather, it tells her that you're strong and that's actually very attractive.

Lastly the letter says “I don’t think we should talk for a few weeks” and “maybe we can still be friends when this is over”.

Here you’re further demonstrating self control, stability and you’re taking back your power and now beginning to set the terms for the relationship.

Don’t worry – she won’t lose interest, quite the opposite, she’ll begin second guessing the break up, perhaps even missing you and remembering the great times you’ve spent together – so don’t be surprised if she ends up chasing you.

So make sure to use what you’ve learned today to get your girlfriend attracted to you again.

Tomorrow, we’re going to talk about bouncing back emotionally after the break up.

Until than,

Julie

PS: If you're wondering how a girl knows all this fancy psychology, the answer is the Ex Squared System written by Matt Huston. Reading that book gave me insights about my own psychology that I wasn't even aware of. It's not only hands down the best guide on how to get your ex girlfriend back for good, it also tells you all the things to say to get your ex girlfriend back and is the best education on female psychology a man can get. It has my highest recommendation.